Sometimes giving others a break may not be the easiest thing to do, especially when your boss has just gotten in your face and screamed. I for one know that my Italian side would get the better of me. But what if……….
Let’s focus on the “what if.” What if the boss who just yelled at you found out she’s going to be fired if she can’t raise department sales? What if the person who cut you off on the freeway was so excited and in a hurray because his wife was in labor? What if we understood that we can never get into someone else’s head to know for sure why they’re acting a certain way? So, what if we just decide to give them a break????
“But then they won’t know how they made me feel!” or ” I want them to feel as bad as they made me feel!” I know, I know, we want to lash out and hurt those that hurt us or at least let them know how much they hurt us. But, what if for this week we don’t do anything? No yelling back, no arguing, no talking behind someones back, just plain and simple, give them a break.
Two bible passages I love say;
“All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” (NLT)
“First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (NIV)
I’m sure we’ve all had a bad day, even a bad year! We’ve made mistakes, gotten mad, and have taken things out on one another. But wouldn’t it have been nice if during that moment someone had simply given you a break?
Small Change #43 Give Someone a break
Try it this week, but if you do find yourself getting mad see if you can pull out of it quicker. I remember a women from one of my seminars telling me she was so excited because she stayed mad at her daughter for only one hour. I asked her how long she usually stayed upset and she said typically a week or two, wow, that’s a wonderful change.
So do the best you can, let it go and move on, and recognize how this reflects back to you. The quicker you can move on, the faster your life we fall back into a peaceful state.