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Self-fulfilling prophecies

24 Monday Nov 2014

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Brian Tracy, negative outcomes to negative statements, self-fulfilling prophesies, small changes

I was at the book store with a friend the other day and we were looking at dvd’s and talking about Christmas when this women walked up and said, “I hate Christmas.” She went on to say “I mean I love the reason for Christmas, it’s just that every year around Christmas time something always goes wrong, it’s been like that for years. I tell everyone, watch, this year, something is bound to go wrong.” She then told me it never fails to happen.

Quotation-Brian-Tracy-confidence-Meetville-Quotes-114404I tried to talk to her about the power of such statements and how with enough belief behind them you can actually create the event, but she was very set in her ways so I didn’t push the subject. I began thinking of statements I hear over and over from friends and family and guess what? They are self-fulfilling prophesies. I could see them loud and clear, things like; “Every time I have money coming in some emergency always seems to come up and out the door it goes” And I have seen this happen so many times with them. I’ve also heard, “I’m going to lose my job to a younger worker I just know it.” and of course that is exactly what happened.

What do you constantly talk about, dwell on, complain about, over and over? This becomes a type of mantra and with enough feeling behind it, like anger, fear, or worry, you’ll be sure to say, “see I told you so, I knew that would happen.” Don’t give yourself a self-fulfilling prophesy unless it’s one with a great outcome.

Small Change #52 Do away with repetative negative statements. take a moment to think about and change what you seem to complain, talk, or worry about over and over and over.  If you can’t come up with anything just ask one of your friends or family members, chances are they’ll have heard it time and time again.

 

Love More

17 Monday Nov 2014

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1 Corinthians 13:13, have a better life, Love, small changes, speak love

Many people who have taken my seminars have asked me, “How can I create a better reality in my present world?” Or simply put, “how can I have a better life?” I don’t claim to have the perfect answer for that one, but I do know of one way that will never steer you in the wrong direction, and that is; Love more.

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Love your family more, your spouse, your kids, uncles, aunts, cousins, pets. Write to them, call them, get together with them, hug them.
Love your job, do the best you can do, with a grateful heart. It’s so easy to complain, we’ve all done that, now lets speak words of praise and see how we feel. Pour out the love at work. Do more, give more, go out of your way. Love your boss, clients and co-workers. Be the one to bring light to work.
Love your home, no matter how old, or how small, love it if you own, rent, or share.
Love your car, your bike, the bus, the train, whatever gives you transportation.
Love the people who are not just your friends and family. In fact, love the people you don’t like all that much, love them even more.
It’s easy to love the people we like, try loving those you don’t.
Love that grumpy neighbor, ask them if they need anything.
Love your figure.
Love your being.
Love your life.
Speak words of love.
Do loving things.
Feel love from inside out.

Love.

You can not do it enough, say it enough, share it enough.

Small Change #51 Loveimages-3
This week I give you the challenge to love more than ever, it’s easy to read this and say yes, love, this is great. But to really apply it all week long, to everyone, in every situation, in all of your actions and words, I actually dare you to try it. Perhaps this could even be the answer to the question above, now wouldn’t that be great?

YOU!

10 Monday Nov 2014

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Dr. Suess, small changes, take off the masks, tear down walls, True you

Happy Monday everyone, this week is “you” week! What does that mean? How in the world can you not be you? Well, I realize you will alway be you in the sense that you are in your body, operating your life from your perspective, but…

73971_490845990948700_1294662030_nHow often do you hide the real you to fit in?
Do you say things just to get along with the group you are currently hanging with?
Do you over-please to make people happy?
Do you constantly care about others opinions of you?

You get my drift here right? Too often our true selves get pushed into the background just to feel like a part of society and to be liked. So this week…

Small Change #50 True You

Tear down the walls, take off the masks, and be you at all times even if it means going against the grain. This means to catch yourself when you are with others, are you agreeing just to agree? So slow down before you give an answer. Be respectful of your true feelings when asked if you want to do something. And speak your mind even if it may ruffle some feathers. Next week you can always go back to hiding but not this week, let your unique self shine!

 

Please don’t push others off the cliff

03 Monday Nov 2014

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Helping by leading, pull others up, small changes, strength for others, weakest link

When someone you know is teetering at the edge of a cliff, please, do not push them off. Yet this is what so many of us do so often, either because we are not aware of the situation, or because we are not strong enough to rise up.

Let’s say for example your friend has mentioned to you on numerous occasions that they just have to quit their addiction to video games. Often you hear “I’m just wasting precious time” or “maybe I should stop playing.” Well, it’s time to help out, next time they invite you over to sit in front of the t.v. with them, don’t ask, “what can I bring?” Instead, let them know you bought tickets to a local jazz band and take them out of the house.
When you discover your boss is going through a very difficult time, don’t bringimages-2 complaints to her, instead pick up the slack. Come in a little earlier, make up a fresh pot of coffee for everyone, find out what needs to be done and do it. True you may not get noticed for this, but that is not the point. Be the strong link for everyone, there are already enough people who claim the job as the weak link.
What if you have a friend who is drinking all the time? Have the strength to lead. For instance, you are both out for dinner and your friend asks if you’d like to get a bottle of wine, knowing what they are going through, you say you’d rather have sparkling water. See, there is no preaching, no right or wrong, just you as a friend taking the lead, and if they follow great, if not, just keep on being a sturdy force in their life.

Small Change #49 Pull up instead of push down

Become more aware of the people around you,what do they need? How can you help? Is there a way you can lead?

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